Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends
Do you describe yourself as high maintenance? No, i’m not meaning the type of woman (and it’s mainly women) that has the ability to make a drama out of a crisis, who starts rows just to keep people on their toes, that demands a man pay for everything.
I’m talking about the mild form of vanity that comes with the need to beautify yourself. You know the one that makes you brush your hair and put make up on in the morning. The one that thinks high heals make your legs look longer and therefore are an essential part of everyday life. The one which thinks spending £100 on curling tongs is normal. The one who thinks designer handbags and shoes are a great idea.
Somewhere along the line I didn’t get this gene.
I fully admit that i’m a tomboy; I’ve always worked this way. If I put make up on, I forget it’s there and smear it across my face in a childish manner. With a childhood either spent barefoot or on wheels of one type or another, i’m not very good with shoes. High heals mean I have to plan for being 20 minutes late. My washing routine is soap and water and a little Nivea moisturiser. I don’t fake tan, I don’t wax (I do use a razor though, i’m not totally disgusting), I dye my hair once a year. I rarely have a manicure. I hate pedicures. I wear clothes that are black, brown, blue or cream.
I can canoe, abseil and go kart. I play poker competitively. I like football; I understand rivalries, 90 minute bigotry and the offside rule. Get me outside and i’m a 5 year old boy who has found a patch of mud to play in. My ripped, torn and generally scruffy collection of jeans pays testament to this. I can put Ikea furniture together without instructions, programme a dvd player, computers, websites. I can do d.i.y. I know what an angle grinder is and can use it. I even did woodwork for A Level. I love motorbikes.
I can’t be described as either gentle or pretty. I pull men, I don’t wait for them. I kiss first. I offer coffee. I like a challenge. I don’t wait for you to call. Lesbians like me.
I’m a hopeless case. I think a bit of balance is needed in my life and i dont mean i need to learn to knit.
Honestly, I need some help, where do I even start?
Kx
P.s Happy St Andrew’s Day to all Scots for Sunday.
Before I met my ex I was pretty much exactly the same. I understand the offside rule, I rarely wore heels, hair straighteners were foreign to me.
Then, all of a sudden, i developed the girl gene. Although not completely, I don’t wait for men either. I don’t sit and wait for the phone to ring. I call them.
I don’t think you’re hopeless. And your boy obviously doesn’t either x
Well I think you sound positively beautiful all on your own. You don’t need any help at all.
But if you are really interested in getting a bit more girlied up, I suggest starting small and doing what you are comfortable with. Spend a few more minutes doing something different with your hair. Find a dress that you are comfortable in and simply smile and say thank you instead of feeling self conscious when you get a compliment. Wedge heels are far easier and safer. I am nearly six feet tall, clumsy as a pig on ice, weak ankles that I have twisted more than once, and even I can wear a wedge heel without hurting myself.
Do what you are comfortable with, and let it come on its own.
You sound like my ideal woman, haha! I’m useless with hair, and there are so few shoes I can wear because of my rubbish problems – expensive make-up is one of my big vices though, even if I don’t really know how to wear it properly.
You sound like my ideal woman, haha! I’m useless with hair, and there are so few shoes I can wear because of my rubbish problems – expensive make-up is one of my big vices though, even if I don’t really know how to wear it properly.
Ok, others have beat me to it but seriously, re-read your post and realise just how attractive and balanced you already are.
There are a million princesses out there and not enough like you for boys like me.
I don’t understand…what happened that made you all of the sudden decide to change?
If you want to, of course we can all help you; but based on what I’ve read on your blog lately, people around you generally like you for who you are…
Yeah, why do you feel that you need to get some balance now?
However my tip is to wear waterproof mascara. It doesn’t smudge and it opens your eyes up and makes a world of difference.
I’ve been thinking about how to reply you all on my last post, but I keep metaphorically ripping it up and starting again.
Really, I didn’t write it for compliments AT ALL, but to take Tara’s point, ill smile, curtsey, bob my head and say a massive thanks for response.
I’ve been feeling a need for change, but i’ve come to realise its not my personality that needs to change (thats pretty set – huh?) but the fact i need to get some confidence back.
Thanks again for all the responses, i feel all warm inside :)
It’s possible to be extremely feminine without being girly. That (in my eyes) is a massive psychological turn-on.
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