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and i don't know what you see in me…

We all know that supposedly that ‘first impressions count’, so we paint a picture of ourselves, whether that’s how we dress for work, for boys, for friends, for our blog readers of how we want others to see us. But first impressions can be deceiving and misleading, as can the first time you meet a person, well, in person.

I’ve spent years painting myself as a tomboy, scruffy, baggy jeans, trainers, no make up, bad hair. But that’s not the whole story; it’s not the whole me, and I think I’m deceiving you, my readers by saying that is all there is.

  • Sometimes I want to be girly and talk about shoes, and clothes and my new extremely hot ‘Michael Kors’ 3.5 inch stiletto heels that scream ‘fuck me’ and how they make me feel like a hot, attractive and sexy GIRL;
  • Sometimes I want to be soppy and talk about how much I loved The Notebook (watched it last night, loved it, especially Ryan Gosling – how did I miss him?) and how I want that kind of romance for myself, but I cant because tomboys don’t do romance; and,
  • Sometimes I want to scream at comments from friends that I’ve become ‘different’ recently, that i’ve changed, that i’m not so shy (no it’s just how you saw and treated me before) .

But this blog has me stuck in a rut. I’ve become my own first impression; and i’m more than that. We are all more than that.

So I’ve decided to post a picture(s) of me, of how I see myself. To take a step towards being more than the scruffy girl I think you all see me as.

But before I do, I wanted to ask the question – how do you see me? and in return how do you think your blog makes people see you?

Kx

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11 Responses to “and i don't know what you see in me…”
  1. You know, people (and even my friends of 10 years) say to me “oh you’re so confident”…and really, I’m the least confident person in the world. It upsets me that they don’t know me well enough to know that i’m just curling up in a ball inside…but maybe I’m just too good at acting ok!

    I see you as tiny, dark, big eyed, jeans and a pretty top kinda girl…with some sexy shoes on every now and then! Very kind and clever but unsure of what you are and who you should be…..

    As for what people think of me, goodness knows but it’s probably not what I think of me!

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  2. Helen says:

    I think people see me as a funny, loud, talkative little monster. But really, some of the time at least, that’s a defence mechanism.

    I see you in pretty much exactly the same way as pinkjellybaby does! Small yet fiesty!

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  3. Stewart says:

    I think you’re funny, thoughtful, generous brave and insightful. But I don’t know you and so the basis of my opinion is shaped every time I read your blog. You can be anything you want to be. Nice.

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  4. Jo says:

    I find it hard to build up images of how bloggers look. I just think that you shouldn’t worry too much about being labelled a tom boy, that doesn’t mean you have to stick to one way of dressing and acting…

    I’m not sure how people on my blog see me. I know my friends are probably a bit confused – I swing from very casual and laid back to high heels and opinionated. I like to mix it up.

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  5. SoMi's Nilsa says:

    It’s hard for me to imagine what people would think of me on my blog, because I’m a known blogger. I put pictures of myself on my blog. I try not to remain hidden – that’s not my motive.

    Can’t wait to see the real you!

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  6. lora says:

    I actually see you very similar to the way I imagine people see myself. I like to talk, but I don’t like being the center of attention in a large group. Blogging cures that “look at me” urge without people actually looking at you.

    Girls like us cute, but way low maintenance. I’d imagine you have a nice face, short hair, little to no make up. You don’t need too much fuss if you are pleasant to look at in the first place.

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  7. lora says:

    my grammar is terrible in that comment. I’m listening to someone talk to me on the telephone. I’m sorry.

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  8. TishTash says:

    I think you’re probably a firecracker and would be great fun to hang out, drink, and smoke with at a bar.

    Oh and way to rock the sexy stilettos. Ow ow!

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  9. miss smidge says:

    Wow! Flattery gets you guys everywhere ;)

    lora “I actually see you very similar to the way I imagine people see myself. I like to talk, but I don’t like being the center of attention in a large group. Blogging cures that “look at me” urge without people actually looking at you”

    This is exactly why i blog, was talking to my boy about blogging last night, im shy but like to talk too, so blogging is my outlet, my way of being confident with people that a) dont know me and b) i dont have to talk to in public!

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  10. miss smidge says:

    oh and Tishtash Firecracker! I like that. and yes im a great bar hanger outer, i love a drink ;)

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  11. Lainey says:

    I need a password – sob!

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