Got some skeletons in my closet and I don't know if no one knows it, so before they thrown me inside my coffin and close it, i'ma expose it
(…if you want to read the previous post, which is a little sensitive then give me a shout, as this is a kind of follow on…just email or twitter me…links at the top)
So, today i made a big decision. It’s not yet all signed, sealed and delivered, but its a huge step forward, however you look at it.
Basically, over the past few weeks since the Boy left me i have taken a serious look at myself. It honestly needed to be done, this ain’t some airy fairy philosophy everyone needs to stop and take a good look at themselves type post. It’s a ‘shit girl its time to get rid of that baggage you’ve been lugging round with you, it seriously doing you no good’ one instead. Ok, enough of the Rikki Lake style chat, all you need to know is that my life has needed a serious clean up for a while.
In black and white – I’m still married to one man, live in the house i own with another and on the verge of getting back with a third.
Yes, that’s right messy.
Very messy.
(have you read the last post yet… time to do so if you haven’t…)
Right, if you are all caught up, then ok, so i made the decision to let Long-Term Ex (LTE) buy me out of the house we own together. The story is that LTE wants to get married and me living in his house cant be good for the fiance’s nerves. (come on how would you like it?).
I could have either sat on my investment for the next 2 years (until our mortgage deal is up) and be a total be-atch, holding out for more cash. Or i could take the money and run, let him be and get on with my life with a clean sharp break.
I know which i prefer.
So, that’s it. It’s looking like i’m moving in 6 weeks time, back to the bachelorette pad closer to town. A new start, a fresh start and the best bit… the money means that i will now be totally and utterly debt free (even my student loan will be gone). At 31. Ok, I’ve no big house, but ill have my little pad, i’m starting a degree, i’ve still got a good job…there is light it seems at the end of this tunnel.
Next step – getting that divorce. But one step at a time…
As i said, cleaning out my closet.
Kxx
Sounds like you’re on the right tracks to be starting over x
“on the verge of getting back with a third”
?!?!
You and Barry getting back together? xx
Only just starting to catch up after the weekend, but it sounds like you’ve made the right decision about the house… who knows how long it’s going to take the market to pick up anyway, so holding off for more money was always going to be a gamble. Better just to get rid of that particular piece of baggage!
It sounds like things are heading in the right direction for you! Good luck!
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I think there is no price to putting your past behind you and moving forward. You made a wise decision to close a chapter in your life and continue the forward momentum. Hopefully this closed door leads to others that are open.
Looks like you’re headed in the right direction. It’s probly better to just be done with the ex and the house and move on. I think you’re doing a good job at letting that old baggage go! Keep it up!! xo
Wow, this touches a nerve with me.
I still live in the house that I bought with my ex. The similarities with the situation are scary and the more I think after reading this post, the more I wonder about the wisdom of staying in it…you have got me thinking Smidge.