Rid me of the problem
…do all that you can, keep me in a daydream, keep me goin strong…
I’m not superstitious per se; I might be a bit OCD occasionally, but I don’t really go in for all the not walking under a ladder, throwing sugar over the shoulder and touching wood malarkey. However, I must admit last night as I managed to smash a mirror to pieces as I was merrily covering the ex-flatmate’s bathroom in cillit bang I did irrationally start panicking – 7 years bad luck, 7 years bad luck, 7 YEARS BAD LUCK!
I really don’t need 7 years bad luck; i’ve just been through what has felt like 7 years of bad luck, especially on the relationship front – Two houses, one ex husband, and one ex long term boyfriend, plus lots of ex-friends; I think that’s enough bad luck for a long time, don’t you?
But, I took alot of deep breaths, plenty of mind over matter and remembered that Mr Wonder was right …“when you believe in things that you don’t understand, when you suffer, superstition aint the way”
So I ignored it.
(Ok, well in the back of my mind, I did wonder, just for a second if burning the mirror would work… and then shook my head and carried on cleaning…and then i span round in a circle 3 times , just in case…)
Ahem, the point is that I’ve come to believe over the years, that superstitions are self-perpetuating – If you think it will happen, then it will; if you think you are going to break up, then you will break up. Pragmatic it might be, but in my experience very real.
Unfortunately I’m not sure this works in reverse, but one can only try. So, to compensate for the 7 years of bad luck i’m due, i’m only going to allow good luck in my life.
(ahem, we’ll see how long this will last, i’m not known for being an optimist).
From now on there is no such thing as bad luck. No thing that can’t be turned around eventually. No thing that means i wont eventually end up on the right path. There is only good luck….
Hoorah for positive thinking….
Kx
P.s i really had enough yesterday, i lost a filling, my switch card got cut up in a shop and then i broke the mirror. I hid under my pillow after all that.
P.p.s: a black cat came to see me this morning and brought me news that my tenants are moving out a month early! I move into my wee place the weekend after i’m back from my holiday…
Good luck 1 – Bad luck 0
“one ex husband, and one ex long term boyfriend, plus lots of ex-friends; I think that’s enough bad luck for a long time, don’t you?”
Depends on the quality of those friends and those relationships. If they were shitty men or shitty friends then I would say that that’s good luck getting rid!
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Your Switch card got cut up in a shop???
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Ouch on the card cutting-up. I do’t believe in any superstitions. Except for the ones that I slavishly follow – Magpies, ladders, etc.
p.s. I touch wood every morn… oh. sorry.
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Positive thinking is the way forward and has helped me through many bad times. Learn the law of attraction unless you don’t already know it because it works everytime. Since I started mine, the sun has been out every day
Here’s something cheesy but thought provoking to read:
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON…It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON…It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
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I knew as soon as I read that post there would be at least 1 Law of Attraction nutter comment
Yes positive thinking is a good thing. It can have a lifting effect on your mood which can make your perception of everything that little bit brighter. But as for it actually effecting anything outside of your own head, even on a quantum level, seriously doubt it.
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Well Mr Cynicism, you’ve maybe never been in that bad a place where you’ve had to use this method of thinking
And from first hand experience, I can guarantee it has an effect on things outside your own head. It also works the same for negative thinking – if you choose to go this way.
I suppose it’s down to everyones personal beliefs and preferences. I believe in the law of attraction and I prefer to feel good all the time
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I think i need to find out about this law of attraction.. anyone care to explain?
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http://www.thesecret.tv/
I’ve got the book I can lend you if you like?
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Ahh ha, B has that book, i didnt realise it was the Secret. I understand now…
and im still a little cynical :p
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Well I wouldn’t expect anything less from you…
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Me! Cynical? me…?? hahahaa.
As i say, im defiant, condescending, unscrupulous, anxious, moody, excessively pragmatic, opportunistic, hard-nosed, self-serving and so obtuse as to seem to have gone both blind and deaf at once. I better add cynical to that list as well!
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It depends what mood you’re in, sometimes you’re a realist, sometimes you’re cynical, and sometimes you’re just plain crazy- but in a good way
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Me! Hahaha, well that has cheered me right up. I agree with the plain crazy bit
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Nothing wrong with being happy all the time, or thinking positively. But believing that you can actually manipulate matter or events purely with positive thinking, well that’s just nuts!
As I mentioned above, positive thinking can effect your mood. Which may makes things appear better, also as we are such complex emotional beings our moods can ‘rub off’ on others so no doubt people might be nicer to you etc.
But thinking you can effect the outcome of events “with the power of your mind” well I call BS. And burden of proof falls on those making the claim (i.e the Law of attraction followers) so until some proof is produced, which thus far there hasn’t been, I’ll remain ‘Mr Cynicism’
Whole thing just smells a bit too like blind religious faith and fervor to me.
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As my other half always says “Life is simple, it’s others who make it difficult”
It’s definately not religious because I’m an atheist. However, yes it is a faith because like many people, they like something to believe in. Some believe in god, some believe in Alah and some have no faith at all. I chose to believe in myself and what I’m capable of.
It’s not a matter of gaining proof, it’s about whether you believe in it or not. Yes, yes, it sounds a bit fairytale and far fetched like but if you’re somebody with a “smidge”n of common sense and life knowledge about you, you will know that you can do whatever you put your mind too and that Mr Cynicism is all the proof you need.
Try it sometime, you might just surprise yourself
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p.s. It’s been raining or been cloudy non-stop in Edinburgh for weeks. I started my “religion” again this week and the sun has been out ever since. Is that ample proof?
Didn’t think so but it works for me.
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I’ve never heard of this ‘Rule Of Attraction’ thingy, but I have to say it sounds positively awful. Far better to scowl at the world through bloodshot eyes.
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Why does it sound awful Paul? Because you might just actually get what you want in life?
Would you prefer to attract negativity and breed cancer in your brain?
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Actually I was joking on my last comment, as I often do, but your reply there has just confirmed my suspicion. Sounds like the sort of tactics used by a Scientology nutter. And yes, since you asked, I would love to breed cancer, ideally in my brain.
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Me! Paul is joking… he called me as “biggoted as hitler” on my last post so ignore him
he’s a wind up merchant!
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That I am! Sorry, just remembered this isn’t my blog. I’ll play nice.
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Paul I find it rather refreshing and amusing to be given tongue in cheek abuse. The haters however who called me a bigot in the first place can go take a running jump…
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Well funnily enough, I have a passion for aliens….
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I find it hard to talk in any other way, it’s why nobody talks to me at work. Someone just offered me a cup of coffee, asked me how I have it. I replied ‘from Starbucks’ and they didn’t make me one. I really fancied a cup too.
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Me! – me too, just watched it last week.
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Aye, our Sigourney is a good actress eh!
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Paul – they could have always just made you one and then stuck a sticker on the cup saying “I’m a sucker for corporation trash”
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True. I don’t even like Starbucks. Well, apart from the Caramel Machiatto. That stuff is the shizz.
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A positive attitude to life can really can make a real difference. It’s not that you can change life events or prevent bad luck coming your way though, that sort of thing is largely unavoidable. But your response to the situations that you find yourself in can play a big part in your happiness. Happy people often consider themselves lucky, simply because they feel happy and have a positive frame of mind. It doesn’t mean that they are any luckier than the next person.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is built on the idea that thinking positively and responding to life and all its stresses in constructive ways (especially the shit bits) results in one feeling more fulfilled and happy.
To a lot of people, it’s mumbo jumbo.
It’s obviously very subjective, but since I learnt about CBT and actively tried to think positively, I have become a happier person.
Sure, I still moan and whinge like the best of them and my blog is full of rants. I have altered my mindset and my outlook though. It has taken a long time and sometimes I don’t always do it well, but I do believe it works.
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PS – I’m not running a cult! I’m not a nut job either.
Well… not that much.
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Blue Soup, I like your thinking!
I’ve lost a lot of people in my life this year and was on a big downer for a long time. Partly because I felt like the people who were left in my life didn’t care when in reality they did, I was just pushing them away with my negative thinking.
It’s amazing how people can sense things and how they respond to that – like Paul said earlier, your outlook rubs off on people so no wonder they didn’t want to see me if I had a negative outlook. Then again, they should have been trying to cheer me up.
Anyway, I realised it’s only myself who can change the way I think and since I’ve done that, people have come back into my life, the sun has been shining and I can’t stop being happy – it’s sickening but it’s a lot better than being manic paranoid depressive.
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I’m thinking me! should be blogging, what do you reckon?!
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Listen, I’m still writing the friends article, gimme a break!
Kit-kats on the go anyone?
xxx
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p.s. you and Paul should be a double-act…
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Yes! Where is my guest post.. Hum?!
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Congrats! We’ll be moving around the same time
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I heard its bad luck to be supersticious, so I never will be, touch wood.
Re: The Secret – if I want the book enough will one mysteriously appear?
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Well David Lesault, according to Google, your skills would be able to make that happen no problem…
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