Stealin’ from the backrooms of our minds
“Am I the only one who follows people on twitter just because they annoy me?” – a fellow blogger recently. My answer was, of course no.
It happens with blogs I read too; the ones I read, just because they piss me off.
Now, by piss me off, I don’t mean they piss me off because I’m ‘jealous’ of their lives, of their readership, comments or ability to write 500 words eloquently. No, it’s because they come across as utterly self centred and whiny. I also love to hate their excuses for the ‘haters’ – that its jealousy – oh and their come back – stop reading…
(No, I won’t stop reading as you make me feel better and worse about myself all at the same time and for some perverse reason I enjoy that…)
Anyways, there is a point to this. I’ve been asked many a time whether I think people are like their blogs and the answer 99.9% is yes. The others are fakes.
But the question of how we make people ‘feel’ by our blogs or tweets or status updates on the myriad of social networking sites is not a common one. Do we make people worry about us? Care about us? Make people feel better about themselves? Or like the few ‘special’ blogs on our lists that make us feel warm, happy and part of a community?
Or is it because they bring us the highly enjoyable, slightly psychotic feelings that only a really irritating person can give us? Safe in the knowledge that our happy annoyance will never be known. Or is this just me?
Haha, speaking as “fellow blogger”, you already know my feelings on this.
Happy annoyance is definitely the best term to use for it. I read things, get irritated and then feel better about myself. Haha.
I like to think I make people happy. But who knows.
Wait, people actually read blogs/follow people on twitter that make them mad? Am i the only one who doesn’t do this?
I read people i am interested in follow twitters i interact with and that’s about it.
I don’t know why people read me, lord knows my blog is going through a transition at the moment and i wonder sometimes how many ‘not recently updated’ folders it is in.
I think most people who follow me on twitter do it for the interaction too
I care about all the bloggers/tweeters i read; of course some more than others but if i didn’t have a feeling for them what would be the point in reading?
Yeah… I don’t do that!
Mostly, I read blogs that ‘sound’ like the authour would be someone that I’d get along with….occasionally there are posts/tweets where I think “what the f?!” but then I just skim over them and try and get on with it.
I think I take things too personally, especially for nasty Tweeters… I just can’t handle it! I recently unfollowed someone because they were being very snappish in their judgemets of me and some things I was saying…and I don’t need that to be honest.
I even find it a bit much coping with people’s replies to my ‘If, But and Maybe’ posts…..but then I’m weird!
If a blog annoys me, I generally can’t be @rsed reading it – I have too many other blogs i DO like to read without wasting my time with the idiots. But I can see why it might have a certain appeal . . .
I used to follow two blogs that made me absolutely bloody furious. And then I recently rationalised everything because my reading list got too big. So now I just love the ones I read. Which is almost the title of a song off of 1970 by Stephen Stills.
There is one blog I read just because I like to laugh a little inside because the author is very very self centred and whores her blog out and asks for opinions on things and if you disagree with her she doesn’t like it.
I have 55 followers on my blog but looking at my stats and comments only a few of those ever comment or read my posts which is fine with me because I write what I want to and if there is too much swearing or I come across like I have multiple personalities so be it. I’m sure quite a few of the girls I met in Manchester hate my blog :)
I am convinced that this is me… :s
Like, not that I am self obsessed or anything :P
sometimes I wonder why I follow some of the blogs I follow…
:)
Until reading this I genuinely had no idea that I followed one particular blog because she annoys me, even though I have REPEATEDLY told myself she’s insane and self obsessed. *LIGHT BULB MOMENT*. Is there a password for your “Will we always have rainbows” blog? Right, I’m off. I’ve gorged enough for one night.
There’s one blog I read and I really, really can’t stand the person who writes it. I’ve never known someone so self-centred and venemous about people who they describes as friends. I know I moan and snipe on my blog but this blogger is in a league of their own and I find myself reading and thinking “the reason your friends are so shit to you is because you’re probably not a good friend yourself.” I just find it utter madness that these friends are always letting this person down and they haven’t once thought to look inside. It hasn’t once crossed their mind that “hey, hang on a moment, in all these stories, I am the common denominator.”
But I still read it and on the very rare occasions that I do comment, I am nice as pie because I am a bit two faced at times and have an evil streak. And I also think the other commenters feel exactly the same, we just don’t ever talk about it to each other because we don’t want to look bad.
Now for me to be self-absorbed for a moment, but God, I hope I’m not a blogger that everyone secretly hates…!
Oohh send me the address, i promise ill never comment so they cant see this ;)
Oh and Ps, i hope you werent talking about me here. I also worry about this too!
If I send you the address, you’ll think I am a total bitch! :)
Twitter, not so much. I wouldn’t want my feed cluttered by crap so they’d be gone. It is awkward when you find yourself following someone & really wish you weren’t, and then have to try & surreptitiously slip away; I found myself following someone who posted utter drivel non-stop (twenty six updates an hour was quite common), so silently made my excuses. They noticed & had a huge strop about it on their feed. Blogs I’d say is more likely – although in those cases I rarely manage to make it through whole posts before slamming my laptop shut and shouting “just fuck off!”