I don`t know what`s right and what`s real anymore
A little (ok a lot) of self doubt has been creeping in recently. This though is not personal, but professional. I am in a happy place right now personally, but of course when there is too much happiness something has to give.
But, professional self doubt is for some reason worse than personal worries – it’s not necessarily about whether people like you, but whether people believe you can do the job you are being paid for. Fundamental really.
There are many people out there that hide self doubt particularly well. I am in awe of this talent. I, however, seem to pin ball from fire fighting to picking up pieces, to following in someone’s footsteps, to being the go-to girl for lots of people.
Weeks goes by and my responses to my boss involve all or some of the following responses – done, complete, done before you asked. I am miss-efficient. I am smart, savvy and can report write like a demon.
But colleagues? Don’t seem to appreciate me right now. So who do I believe?
Maybe it’s not the bosses that are the problem, maybe it is the colleagues, the people on your level or just higher (but not your boss). Work is a backstabbing business.
Do people really succeed by criticising others, by picking holes in other people’s work; undermining them to the point that you feel your work just isn’t good enough? Or am I being paranoid. Or am I just awful at taking criticism?
Whatever, I need to get out of this fear-funk.
I think that’s how some people get on in life, get promoted over and above others because they’re constantly dropping little comments and digs.
Mostly I believe things like this are pure and simple jealousy…try and turn the other cheek if you can, it sounds like you’re doing a really good job xxx
Unfortunately, yes, a lot of people do get ahead by putting down others and praising themselves. Luckily for you, it’s the bosses who know you do a great job so those ‘colleagues’ who are doing that aren’t going to get anything from it.
It makes me mad that people seem to get ahead by backstabbing and walking over other people to get to the top. But such is life I guess.
Oh yes, I’ve met people like that, my ex-boss excelled in undermining and putting all of us down. That’s why she’s an ex-boss to me and soon will be to more people on my old team. Ignoring was my way of dealing with her. Occasional dig won’t hurt either. Constructive criticism is something you usually should have no problem taking, cause it sounds more like an advice than a blast :)
I work with a girl who constantly tries to put me down and big herself up. Unfortunately I have to sit directly opposite. She’s made my day miserable on occasion but now I just turn it back on her and point out when she’s wrong (which is often).
People suck x
first, I listen to that CD a lot and think of you every time.
Second, I go through a lot of the same stuff. I wish I had an answer figured out by now.
People are a funny breed when it comes to acknowledging other peoples good work for FEAR of getting left behind in the wake of acknowledgement. A particular friend of mine is one such person… or rather frenemy… she’s always curious of other peoples work, always afraid someone is better than her and has more self doubt than a wagon of pubescent teens…yet she puts people down and begrudgingly says well done while bitching behind peoples backs…UGH UGH UGH!!!!!!! Back stabbing is not the way forward… keep your head high and don’t let them see what’s happening on the outside… or it’s here that they win and you get crushed… damn bloody fear!!! Damn bloody office politics… In my experience it’s only your family, partner and true friends who will acknowledge your brilliance… others can just effing lump it! lol
coworkers can make an awesome job a nightmare. i wish i could say backstabbing and stepping all over people aren’t the way employees achieve success, but i don’t think it’s true.