See the luck i’ve had
“it was that you can’t ascribe great cosmic significance to a simple earthly event. Coincidence. That’s all anything ever is. Nothing more than coincidence”
I asked the first if i could buy him a drink, drank him under the table, took him home, sent him to his home, disappeared for 6 weeks, came back, found his number on a card through the door and went ‘out’ with him for 18 months. 10 years later i got over him (after getting under him regularly over the years).
I asked the second his name as i was guarding the guest list at a club. 3 weeks later we were engaged and toured the clubs blagging free champagne, a year later we were married, bought a house, hated each other, broke up. 10 years later we are about to be divorced.
The third i met at my first day on a new job, i teased him about missing a club night – one of his and my favourite hip hop djs. We became friends. About a year later someone pushed us towards each other pointing out that we regularly shared a bed, why not more. There was more. 4 years later we had fallen out of love, out of bed, out of time. A year after that we finally plucked up the courage to leave.
The fourth i never even noticed at a party at my house as i was too busy drinking tequila. He texted me whilst i was on a family holiday alone and in the worst place possible. I agreed to a date despite not really remembering what he looked like. We went camping and rode on the back of his motorcycle. 9 months later i realised i would never love him the way he wanted me to and i left.
The fifth i remember everything about our meeting. I told him he had beautiful eyes. He thought i was stealing his tequila. We kissed 30 minutes later. My best mate gave him a lift home the next day. He came back 4 hours later. We have been through ups and downs, but 2 years later i still think about that night.
So, what if I’d gone to the movies? What if I had gone somewhere else for lunch? What if I’d gotten there 10 minutes later? It was – it was meant to be. And… I just kept thinking…
We both turned around at the same time.
(quotes from (500) Days of Summer)
This made me smile a lot, every single one of these defines you and a point in your life…i often wonder the piece about if i hadn’t been there at that minute in time how different life might be xxx
I worry that when my ‘moment’ comes, I’m going to miss it because I’m so completely oblivious to things like that. xx
I don’t think you will. I will have missed so many other opportunities but these are the ones I have chosen to notice…
I wouldn’t necessarily call that bad luck if it’s ended up alright. All of it has contributed to who you are and the person you’re now with who makes you happy. If all the rubbish stuff hadn’t happened, you might not appreciate where you are now so very much :)
Exactly, I dont call any of it ‘bad luck’ – i am what i am now (romantically) because of these five coincidences!
Although reading back, its seems clubbing and tequila had quite a hand in these coincidences!
I remember my moments, too. There’s really just two, maybe three of them (I think I tend to stick to the guys for longer than I’d expect). First one would be a party at friend’s and this guy saving me from having to chat to this absolutely awful and boring bloke, who was following me everywhere. Then there’s the Internet cafe meeting (I’m the New Media girl, but meeting someone online would probably be going to far). The last one includes broken door knob and two bottles of wine a few nights later. And also two other girls and a returned engagement ring in the meantime.
beautifully written…