Don’t need no golden ring, it’d be no match for the love you’d bring
This post is part of Wedding Wednesday hosted over at Something Charming. You can read my other wedding posts under the Mr + Mrs Smidge tag.
The word wedding means marriage, it means B and I are getting married. By getting married we want to spend the rest of our lives together. But a wedding means we also get to tell our nearest and dearest that (and have them help us do it) and then have a damn good party. That is a wedding.
What I didn’t realise was the definition of ‘wedding’ also includes many four letter words.
&(&&%^&$%^$%$!!!!
It is so fricken easy to:
- Get upset that you can’t get married anywhere nice without having your reception there afterwards. Venues are greedy. If Saturday is your day of choice then you need 100 guests, a 3 course meal, a wine and champagne package, thousands of canapes and a piper just to get through the door. If we want our reception somewhere else (and less bland and more us) we should be able to.
- Get angry about having to make appointments to try on wedding dresses with your best mate. Wedding shops are rude. When you phone up to make your first ever appointment you do not want to be greeted by “do I need to make an appointment for Saturday? Yes. Can I make an appointment? No” Click. No naming names, but the shop is just outside Edinburgh.
- Think that you actually need to go to every wedding shop to try on every dress type out there; as well, you know you might actually suit a meringue ivory dress with bodice bling even when you really know that at 4 foot 11 that simple is best. Maybe a little something from Chloe instead.
- Worry that even though you want to look amazing that you feel really sick about only wearing a dress once. And being meant to spend upwards of a £1000 on it. Especially when your man, who you normally rely on for honest fashion advice can’t see it or help you with it. Panic!
- Forget that if you buy the shoes you really really like you will get to wear them over and over again. Spending more money on the shoes than the dress is an option, if you make it one.
Then, as you are getting frustrated for the 10th time that the invites don’t match the table settings, the bridesmaid dresses, the napkins or the venue. (Btw who gives a frick, it’s just because people tell you they are meant to. Or because every design on Etsy has an option for matching inserts…) You are reminded that this is meant to be fun.
…and then you smile.
Just for a second….and then start panicking about the flowers, the photographer, the cake, the first dance, the favours…
..and seriously start considering eloping.
Miss S-zilla x
P.s hopefully next week i’ll be able to show you the ring!
I refused to spend more than 500 on my dress – I didn’t think it was the most important thing to be spending a lot of money on when we had a limited budget.
I got my dress from the Monsoon bridal range and I’d thoroughly recommend it as they’re simple designs. Great for us shorter people! Means you can spend more on shoes…. ;-)
I have thoroughly enjoyed looking at dresses and if you like at my wedding board there are lots of lovely looking mega-expensive outfits on it…but I expect I’ll either borrow my mum’s sari or buy something similar.
I feel very lucky that I found a venue where we can have our own catering and music.
And er…. I haven’t thought about the invites matching the venue or the table settings. Maybe I ought to…
I’m kind of in the middle of looking at planning our wedding and after much research and first-hand experience of bridal retailers at fayres etc, I’m definitely veering towards the smaller vintage type shops out there. They are by far the loveliest and most accommodating (and not rude!). One I came across in Edinburgh is Rowan Joy Bridal: http://www.rowanjoybridal.co.uk/ Gorgeous dresses that aren’t too highly priced. If you take a design to her, she is happy to make it. When i finally get round to sorting a dress, my shop of choice will either be Dragonfly Design (http://www.dragonflydressdesign.co.uk) or Flossy Dossy (http://flossyanddossy.co.uk/) (both Glasgow). Hope these ideas helps :)
My shoes cost more than my dress.
Actually, my PANTS cost more than my dress.
Honestly, the wedding industry is such bullshit. Sticking up your fingers at it in whatever ways you can is incredibly satisfying.
Weddings can be entirely frustrating, but they are also amazing and beautiful and worth the stress, I promise. But don’t worry so much about what other people think. It’s your day, and you should make it yours. And I definitely wouldn’t judge you if you spent more on the shoes than the dress ;)
Thanks for linking up today lady!
xoxo,
Joelle
Wedding planning can be stressful no matter how big or small – I had many freak outs where eloping felt like the only viable option. But in the end, for me, it was all worth it. And honestly I wish I spent more money on my shoes than my dress – at least it’s more likely that I’ll wear those again.